How the Mother Wound Shows Up In Adult Female Friendships

How the mother wound can shape adult friendships through trauma bonding, emotional labour, and enmeshment - a psychotherapist’s reflection. *all names have been changed to protect identity.

Let me start at the end. The end of my Amma’s (Mum in Tamil) life was sudden and therefore carried additional trauma – four months of ‘symptoms but no signs’ metastatic breast cancer, followed by a quick, breathless demise a week after diagnosis, felt like sudden death by car crash.